Showing posts with label request. Show all posts
Showing posts with label request. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

You Can't Always Get What You Want, So Don't Ask (for too much) - Tuesday Kavvanah, 4/24/2012


Did you notice? Morning minyan for the past week and a half (since Pesah) has been SIX WORDS shorter! Truly amazing! I have accomplished so much with that extra time.

From whence comes the savings? There are two places in the Amidah where we no longer ask for rain (in Israel). Well, actually only one of them is a request; the other is a mere mention. At the beginning of the Gevurot  paragraph, the second berakhah of the Amidah, we have been saying the following since Shemini Atzeret:

מַשִּׁיב הָרוּחַ וּמורִיד הַגָּשֶּׁם
Mashiv haruah umorid hagashem.
God causes the wind to blow and the rains to fall.

And we have been making the following request since Dec. 4:
וְתֵן טַל וּמָטָר לִבְרָכָה
Veten tal umatar livrakhah
And give us dew and rain as a blessing
The first has been eliminated completely, and the second shortened to the perfunctory and vague veten berakhah / give us blessing.

Why the change?  There is a rabbinic principle (e.g. Mishnah Berakhot 9:3) that one should not offer a tefillat shav, a prayer in vain. That is, we cannot request something from God that cannot naturally occur, like rain in Israel during the summer, or that one's 2-year-old will not throw a tantrum when denied a lollipop.

As a guiding principle to tefillah, I have found that it is more effective to think of statutory prayer as maintenance rather than asking for things that you do not have.  Isn't it wonderful, say the words of the siddur, that the sun came up this morning, that I had the energy to get dressed and venture out, that I had food on my plate, and that this world is filled with unmeasurable quantity of blessing.

There is always a place for making requests outside of the traditional framework, but it is nonetheless a good idea to consider very carefully what we ask for; the reasonable request has a better chance of being heard.


~
Rabbi Seth Adelson

Monday, September 5, 2011

Elul 6: If you only had one request from God

If you had only one request from God, what would it be?

To help us with our introspection during the month of Elul, we recite Psalm 27 twice daily, morning and evening, from now until the end of Sukkot:

אַחַת שָׁאַלְתִּי מֵאֵת-יְהוָה-- אוֹתָהּ אֲבַקֵּשׁ
שִׁבְתִּי בְּבֵית-יְהוָה, כָּל-יְמֵי חַיַּי;
לַחֲזוֹת בְּנֹעַם-יְהוָה, וּלְבַקֵּר בְּהֵיכָלוֹ

Ahat sha'alti me'et Adonai, otah avaqesh:
Shivti beveit Adonai, kol yemei hayay
Lahazot beno'am Adonai, ulvaqer beheikhalo.


One thing I ask of God, one thing I request:
To dwell in the house of God all the days of my life
To behold God's graciousness, and to visit in His palace. (Psalm 27:4)


The Psalmist's single request is curious. What does it mean to "dwell in the house of God"? Wouldn't it have been better to ask for something more, well, tangible? Or universal? Or achievable?

The point is two-fold, and tailored to Elul:
1. The process of heshbon na-nefesh, accounting of the soul, is deeply personal. Hence the request is for "me" rather than "us."
2. Our ultimate goal is to reconcile with God, which we hope to do in advance of Rosh Hashanah, so that we will be inscribed in the Book of Life for a good year. As such, the vision of being favored by God with permanent residence in "God's palace" is front and center during this month.

What would you ask for?

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Wednesday Morning Kavvanah, 1/19/2011 - Shalom: Wish or Request?

The oft-repeated line, "Oseh shalom bimromav..." (May the One who makes peace on high make peace for us and for all Israel), which we find at the conclusion of every Amidah and many forms of the Qaddish prayer, is not really a baqashah, a request. There is a very specific form for the liturgical mode called baqashah, and this is not it.

However, we do say it frequently, and there is no question that we need peace - here in America, in Israel for certain, and throughout the world. Its role as a concluding thought in these prayers points to the centrality of this need.

And yet, we do not formally request peace of God; we simply wish that God will bestow it. I find this ironic - something that we need so desperately, and yet we do not simply come out and ask for it.